Coping with rejection as a sperm donor: A qualitative study of the personal impact of rejection and new health information

by Lina Thirup, Anne-Bine Skytte, Ulrik Schiøler Kesmodel, Ida Vogel, Guido Pennings, Allan Pacey, Stina Lou

The demand for sperm donation is increasing, yet only a small percentage of applicants are accepted, and little attention has been given to those who are rejected. The application process may reveal new medical or genetic information with potential personal and emotional consequences. The aim of this study was to explore how men experience rejection as sperm donors, including how they cope with the rejection and integrate potential new information into their lives.

We conducted qualitative, in-depth interviews with 19 men rejected as sperm donors. Data was analyzed using thematic analysis.

Some men received new medical information that raised significant concerns, particularly regarding their health, fertility, and family. However, for most it was not the reason for rejection that affected them most, but the rejection itself. They had begun to identify as donors, and being turned down felt like a blow to their sense of self. Over time, participants used different coping strategies: information seeking, actionable reasoning, positive reframing, normalizing, and postponing. Although the experience was personally and emotionally challenging for many, it ultimately did not have a lasting negative impact on their lives.

Sperm donation is not only a medical act but also tied to social identity, with rejection having personal and emotional consequences. For men whose rejection is based on new medical information that causes significant concerns, sperm banks should support rejected donors and help them exit the process positively. Further research is warranted to find out how this can be done.